Countdown to D-Day

Okay so it’s not what you’re thinking. D-Day as in DELIVERY DAY💕

Recently being diagnosed with preeclampsia has moved my induction date up a little and we are now 9 days out. NINE!

Holy cow. Can you say emotional wreck? Nervous, excited, scared, over planning, feeling unprepared, worried about my daughter… the list goes on and on. I know what you’re thinking, “shouldn’t you have had time to prepare yourself for this day?”

Well, yes. You would think that I would have been preparing all along and we have. The nursery is almost complete except for a few things which aren’t necessities, the car seats are installed, the hospital bag is packed (finally) but that doesn’t mean I’m mentally prepared to have and bring home two babies. Surely they wouldn’t let me leave the hospital with two babies because that would be crazy. I have no clue what I’m doing.

Although I feel as though I’m slowly losing my mind, here are a few things that I intend to do to pass the time.

1. Sleep. That’s right. I know it’s not always possible with a 14 month old but I’m lucky enough to have a wonderful support system to help with Reagan anytime I need it. My mom stays with us a lot and she is always helping with not only Reagan but house work and preparation for the boys! My mother in law is also wonderful when it comes to lending a helping hand. She comes straight from work and gets Reagan when I need her to and keeps her until Michael gets home! So sleep/rest is my number one priority as it will most likely be a thing of the past when the boys do arrive.

2. Cleaning. Light cleaning of course. I simply turn on some music and just start. Usually in the kitchen while Reagan eats breakfast and then on to the living room while she runs around and plays. She always does better about playing by herself when I am up moving around and keeping busy but there is a fine line that I have to keep in mind. I don’t want to push myself too much and make things worse so this one isn’t always a sure thing. But wouldn’t it be nice to bring babies home to a spotless house? A girl can hope!

3. Spending time with my daughter! The weather has been nice here for the last day or so and we’ve got to enjoy a nice light walk to the mailbox and to see our puppy. I hope to be able to take her to the park and let her play just us a time or two before the boys arrive!

Nine days. Nine days until they are here with us and our life is completely different. Scary, very scary but oh so exciting.

We all know those last few weeks drag by, so what are your favorite things to do pass the last few weeks of pregnancy? I’m gonna need all the help I can get!

Mommy Group Anyone?

Have you ever been awake in the middle of the night with a crying baby? You are exhausted beyond measure, you can’t remember if you brushed your teeth before you went to bed and it’s possibly been 2 or 3 days since you had a shower that lasted longer than 2 minutes.
These can be some of the loneliest times. Children take constant attention which means that as parents, we have to put ourselves on the back burner for the time being. When I first found out I was pregnant with my first child I just knew that this would open up a whole new lifestyle for me. I was so excited to have a little tiny baby in my arms and couldn’t wait to have my very own best friend for life. Don’t get me wrong, Reagan is so special to me and I love being her mommy but this whole mom thing is lonely. There are times that I feel the loneliest I have ever been. This could easily be for a number of reasons. I have an amazing support system between my hubby, his parents, my mom and my sisters. I even have a few friends that I still see on occasion but none of the above are in my same stage of life. They aren’t waking up every night with a crying baby (except my hubby because he is awesome) nor do they spend all day with a 13 month old who refuses to use words although she knows many.
I am here. This is my life right now and I love it. I know it is simply a season and I will one day soon look back and miss all these firsts but that doesn’t change the fact that I long for someone who knows EXACTLY what I am going through. I think that it is extremely important to have friendships with other young moms who can truly say, “I know exactly how you feel” and give advise or simply an encouraging word to help you to realize that YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
Many times as moms we like to act as if we have everything under control and we are that perfect house wife and mother but let me tell you… I am NOT that mom!
My house is always a mess. I clean one room and walk to the next and the first room is being destroyed all over again. My car has fast food trash in it. My child probably had a whole bag of goldfish for breakfast, and I don’t get to shower and fix my make up every day. I am not afraid to admit that I struggle from time to time. That is what makes me human but these are all reasons that I need a mommy group. Support, friendship, judgement free listening ears, someone to simply tell me that I am worthy of this job that has been entrusted to me.
If you find yourself needing a friend on this crazy rollercoaster ride of motherhood, please find me! Email, call, text, facebook… ANYTHING! Chances are, I need you too!

Although I am about to add to my chaos with the arrival of our twins within the next few weeks, I feel that I am being called to put together a small group of moms who simply need support. If you have everything under control or if you find that you are that mom struggling from postpartum depression then I want you to reach out to me for more information. We all need each other no matter the differences that may lie between us!

I hope you will take an interest in this group and find that you are not in fact alone. I can’t wait to hear from you!

Prodromal Labor and How I Cope

Prodromal labor is another word for pre-labor and consists of some early signs that labor might be near. It begins much like traditional labor but doesn’t result in birth.

Prodromal labor sucks. Plain and simple. It’s contractions, REAL contractions that don’t even do their job right! Like seriously? Braxton Hicks are one thing but now we have to suffer through real contractions all for nothing.

That’s right, you heard it. Some women don’t have any trouble at all but if you are like me, I had this pesky little pre-labor with my daughter and now I get to enjoy it with the twins.

When I was pregnant with Reagan, I had a small episode of preterm labor at about 24 weeks that we were fortunate enough to get stopped, Thank GOD! I was dilated to a one from this point on. At about 35-36 weeks I started having prodromal labor. It came and went every single day and I was exhausted (or so I thought). However, at this time I was simply a stay at home wife with no other children and only about 900 square feet of house to clean so I was able to rest and sleep through most of the annoying pre-labor symptoms.

Now that we are in round two… I have a one year old who has recently mastered walking (speed walking to be exact) and i’m pregnant with twins. At 29 weeks, with both boys measuring a week ahead, I am as big and uncomfortable as I was the day my water broke with my daughter (39 weeks).

For the past few days, I have started to experience the same issues. Consistent contractions, cramps, back pain and irritability. These things simply do not mix with a one year old who still doesn’t sleep through the night and usually refuses to nap during the day. So how do I cope with these annoying symptoms? Well here’s a few things I try to do since relaxing and resting are off the table with Reagan on the loose:

  1. I drink a ton of water. Water is good for everything right?
  2. I try to distract myself with light house work.
  3. I focus on playing with my little girl. After all, our time alone together is quickly approaching it’s expiration date.
  4. If my situation allows, I take a hot shower to relax my muscles and help with the back pain.
  5. Then, if I just can’t seem to shake it, I will ask my wonderful mom for help. I wouldn’t know what to do without her, she is a lifesaver!

It’s so very important to me to try and keep my complaining to a minimum because there are mothers who don’t have a chance to to make it this far and experience these late pregnancy symptoms. No matter how hard and annoying it is to go day to day with these annoying inconveniences, I would much rather have to go through each of them than have to watch my babies struggle and fight because they came too early. But hey, it wouldn’t be pregnancy if I didn’t complain a little.

Hopefully these few things can help you guys to cope and as always this is not medical advice and if you experience things you aren’t comfortable handling on your own, it is always a good idea to be checked out just in case. My motto for any pregnancy is I’d rather be safe than sorry. Just remember when experiencing these things, you are not alone. There is at least one other mama right here suffering beside you.

Do you guys have any other ways of coping with pregnancy pains? I’d love to hear them so make sure you comment and share cause we are all in this together.

Love and prayers for each of you and your sweet babes today!