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Our First Year- An Introduction

As I sit here and reflect on my day, my mind begins to wander. I look around and see my dream home, a beautiful little girl on a baby monitor sleeping away and the most handsome, hard working husband preparing to leave for the day.

If I told you this had only started approximately a year ago, would you believe me?

Well, IT DID! My husband and I said ‘I Do’ on April 23, 2016 and the past 14 months have been exciting to say the least. We have bought a house, had a wonderful baby girl, sold said house, lives with his parents AND my parents during the move, bought a new home and are currently hoping and planning for baby number 2!

Sure we’ve had hard times. Lost friends who swore they’d always be there, and we’ve had to fight through heartaches but inspire of every single one of those things, we have built a solid foundation in our Christian faith to which we are growing our marriage and family. 

At the end of each day, the good always outweighs the bad and never has there been a single regret. 

So as I sit her reflecting back, all I have to say is bring it on. 

It’s crazy, it’s beautiful, it’s LIFE❤️

Do Schedules Really Work for Babies?

Okay mamas, I have been struggling with a fussy baby over the last couple of weeks and I’m ashamed to say that I’ve let it really get to me. Although I love my little one more than anything on this earth, something inside of me just gets so frustrated and angry.

Reading a few articles and seeking advice from my brilliant mother I have realized that babies love schedules. They just function better all a round when given a schedule. I am seriously considering hardcore trying to develope a good schedule that will work for us seeing as how I will be returning to school in just a few short weeks. 

While I search out the right schedule for my little family I would love to know what has worked for any of you! Maybe you’ve tried a schedule and you have things that worked better than others or any advice at all really! Obviously I’m new to this so I’ll take all the help I can get! I can’t wait to hear from you! 

When Life Happens Backwards

Grow up, graduate high school, go to college, graduate college, get dream job, fall in love, get married, buy a home, have fun, save money, have babies… so on and so forth. That’s how society says life is supposed to go but I’m here to tell you that God has a plan for each and every one of us and I’m a firm believer that His plan isn’t always that cookie cutter way of life. 

My life most certainly didn’t unfold that way and I’m thankful for that! That’s a story for another day. I have a beautiful baby girl, the most handsome and caring husband in this entire world, we are in the process of looking for a new home and hopefully I will be returning to school this year! 

No matter how life decides to treat you, just know that everything is going to happen as it’s meant to be. After all, happiness is not the destination, its the journey❤️ 

To Breastfeed or Not To Breastfeed

When you become pregnant one of the first things everyone wants to know is if you are going to Breastfeed or not. Your fellow mom friends, your doctor, your mom’s brother’s cousin’s ex wife’s aunt. Literally everyone. Which it’s actually no ones business but it’s usually asked in innocence. I guess people just don’t know what else to say or maybe they truly want to be nosey but who cares. 

I honestly think that there is so much pressure to Breastfeed that people get so caught up in it that they don’t realize that it simply isn’t for everyone. I am well aware of the many many benefits of breastfeeding and I am not against it. I do however realize that it can be very difficult for many different reasons and I want to share my experience so that it may help other mommies! 

When I found out I was pregnant, I was determined to Breastfeed. Oh, it was the best way to feed your child and I refused to formula Feed. However, things don’t always go the way you plan. 

My baby girl arrived 5 days early and I was oh so happy when she came out hungry. We were doing our skin to skin and she immediately tried to latch on to her daddy. He gave her back and I let her try her hand at breastfeeding… she did great! But that’s where it all ended. As the days in the hospital went on, she had trouble with her weight because she just wouldn’t latch. No matter what the nurses or myself did, she simply wasn’t having it. Although she was losing weight, all the doctors and nurses encouraged me to continue trying so that’s what I did. And let me tell you, it made our first two weeks at home miserable.

I had ordered a breastpump and because she couldn’t latch, I had to pump every two hours and it was worse than pulling teeth. I would double pump for 20 minutes every two hours and only get about 1.5-2 ounces TOTAL. She was eating 2-2.5 ounces every two hours. I was exhausted because she would sleep but after I fed her and changed her and got her laid down, it was time to pump again. So I never slept and it stressed me out. I was so heartbroken that I wasn’t able to keep up with her. I struggled with it and I cried every single time I went to Pump because it simply reminded me.

Then one day I woke up and I had a come to Jesus meeting with myself. I was tires of seeing my baby struggle to eat and grow and I was tired of being miserable and missing the greatness of enjoying my new baby. I walked out of my bedroom and told my husband that I was done breastfeeding and pumping. We had sample cans of formula and we were going to use those until we could get more from the grocery store.

The next time we went to the doctor she had gained 6.5 ounces in just 4 days! My baby was finally eating and growing like she’s supposed to! I was finally enjoying my time with my new baby! 

She is almost a month old now and we are as happy as could be. We have found a formula that works for us and we enjoy our time now! There are so many pros and cons to each method of feeding and I believe that everyone should choose which way is best for them. I just know the pressure women have to Breastfeed and I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to. You simply have to care for your baby and yourself. Find what’s best for you and go with it. We aren’t all made the same so it’s obvious that what works for one person won’t work for everyone. 

Simply care for your baby and do what makes y’all happy! If you want to Breastfeed, Breastfeed. If you want to formula Feed, formula Feed. And don’t judge any other mama for the choice she makes because in the end, we are all in this together. 

New Thoughts for a New Year

As everyone knows, I’m going into this new year as a brand new mom. And since becoming a new mom I have had a little trouble adjusting. You think you’ve gone without sleep before but you are oh so wrong. You don’t know exhausted until you’ve spent so many nights awake that you can’t remember what day it is. Not to mention that on top of your exhaustion, there is a tiny human who requires your absolute, undivided attention and sometime despite your BEST efforts… they still cry. Maybe they just like to test your patience, who knows! 

Having said all that, I am making it my goal this year to slow down. Take some time to enjoy my baby and all the adventures of being a brand new mom. I want to make sure I am striving to be a better me. This year that goal isn’t for me, it’s for Reagan because she needs me to be the best me that I can be. So I’m going to put more effort into reading my bible everyday, being more positive, and enjoying the little things. 

Also I’m going to spoil my little princess so if you need me, I’ll be snuggled up to my baby, watching tv and snoozing❤️

Reagan Harper Smith

So as you all know very well, I did not enjoy the last weeks of my pregnancy or any of it really but I spent the last weeks trying everything I could to get my baby here! 

Well Michael and I made it to our anniversary (December 14) and we had said the whole time that she would come that day and she did. Well almost. We got admitted to the hospital because my water had broken. 

We had been to the skate park for michael to skate a while, then we headed to lunch and to my moms before heading to the doctor. I had been saying all day that I thought my water was breaking and no one believed me and when we got to the doctor for our scheduled appointment she didn’t even check me. She sent us straight to the hospital. 

However, I wasn’t technically in active labor because I wasn’t having contractions or anything so she said we could go home to pack the rest of our things. 

We came home, packed up what was left and headed that way! We were admitted at 4:30 and the started me on pitocin because I still wasn’t having contractions. I was on the pitocin for a while and then had my epidural and continued laboring through the night. 

When shift changed at 7 the next morning, the Doctor came in at 7:30 and checked me. He broke what he called “a second bag of water” and bam. Things finally started to progress. I went from a 5 to a 10 in about an hour and a half and then not even 20 minutes later I was holding the most beautiful, 7lb 6oz baby girl in my arms. 

I thought I had died and gone to heaven because that little girl was so perfect. 

The next couple of hours and days all run together now so don’t ask me much about those but none of that matters because she is finally here! 

SOOOO BEHIND

So I haven’t posted anything since December 13th and for very good reason. 

On December 14th, our Princess decided that it was time for her to come (although she didn’t actually arrive until the 15th). We spent December 14-17 in the hospital and the following days have been filled with nothing but simply getting adjusted to life with a newborn. If there is such thing. I’ll definitely be posting our birth story later but right now I’m enjoying a day out of the house with my little princess and as soon as daddy is done in Best Buy we are going to head over to Babies R Us 😍 

So definitely more to come later on our first days with a newborn. And let me tell you, it’s nothing short of chaotic. 

Early Anniversary

So it is absolutely no secret that things happened extremely fast with Michael and I. We have known each other since we were kids and have been best friends for years. At least ever since my friends and I brought him out of his shell. He’s an only child. I don’t think I need to say anything else 😉

Anyways! We finally realized “Hey, we love each other” so we started dating on December 14, 2015. We spent our first Christmas together which was perfect, our first New Years as a couple and our first Valentine’s Day. Which turned out to be the day Michael asked me to spend the rest of my life with him. Yes, only after 2 month. Hold off on your judgement, it only gets better. 

We then started planning our wedding and wouldn’t you know… 2 months after that we were MARRIED and expecting a baby that the doctors said we couldn’t have. 

As the year went on we got the opportunity to experience so many new ‘firsts’ together and here we are getting so close to welcoming our baby girl into the world! 

So many ups and downs, tears and laughs, adventures and simple nights at home… I would have never in a million years thought that I would be where I am today and with Michael Smith, the man of my dreams. I am so thankful for the wonderful year he has given me. So even though our anniversary isn’t until tomorrow, he decided that we would start celebrating tonight. I’m sick so we had Salmon Stew (YUM), and no we don’t have a dining room let alone a kitchen table so we work with what we got! 

We had a candle light dinner, exchanged gifts and now we are spending quality time together like most people do. He’s playing Xbox and I’m coloring 😂 and yes, before you ask, it is infact green tea in our glasses, 1. Because I’m pregnant and 2. We do not drink. 

So day 7 on our countdown is complete! 

Officially An Adult

So technically I’ve been an adult for a few years now. Legally, I’ve been an ‘adult’ for 4 years. I’ve been living on my own for the majority of those 4 years and worked a full time job the entire time. I’m also married, and having a baby (hopefully this week). 

But today I realized I am officially an adult. Michael works a rotating 4 days on, 4 days off shift and has to be up for work at 4:30am so natuarally (most days) I get up with him and see him off. 

Today however, is one of Michael’s days off. But my body doesn’t care. Well it is slightly considerate. It let me sleep in! All the way to 5:30am! Woohoo! I got to sleep in a whole hour! 

I woke up and all I could think about was all the cleaning and stuff that needed to be done today so I decided to just get up. There was no hope for going back to sleep. So I’m making a list of things to do for the day… 

Poor Michael, he never TRULY gets a day off. 

8 Days To Go! 

As I said yesterday, Michael and I are counting down the days to D-Day (due date that is). Each day we are doing something that we can look forward to so that we can keep our minds off of the dragging time! 

Day 8 was ‘Late Night Grocery Shopping’ day! Yes laugh all you want but we actually enjoy grocery shopping together. It’s always fun with Michael. He always knows how to make me laugh. We went to Family Dollar first to get our non grocery things because I had coupons of course! Then we proceeded toWalmart which, who doesn’t love Walmart? Yeah right. But Grocery shopping is actually fun for me because I have this awesome couponing app called Ibotta. You guys have got to check this app out! You simply go to the app, selects the grocery store you shop at and view the rebates they offer. The rebates change from time to time but it’s actual products that we all use on a daily basis such as milk, bread, cereal, household items… the list goes on and on! You simply scan the bar code on the product and then scan your receipt and your account gets credited. You then can redeem your cash back on gift cards… of your choice! Who wouldn’t love that? 

Soooo, you have to at least check out the app! It’s totally free right in your App Store! If you wanna start saving today, download the app and check it out! Don’t forget to tell the app that I referred you by giving my referral code which is: kbbfrgy 

So day 8 was a success! Tomorrow we finally hit 39 weeks and that is just exciting!