When you become pregnant one of the first things everyone wants to know is if you are going to Breastfeed or not. Your fellow mom friends, your doctor, your mom’s brother’s cousin’s ex wife’s aunt. Literally everyone. Which it’s actually no ones business but it’s usually asked in innocence. I guess people just don’t know what else to say or maybe they truly want to be nosey but who cares.
I honestly think that there is so much pressure to Breastfeed that people get so caught up in it that they don’t realize that it simply isn’t for everyone. I am well aware of the many many benefits of breastfeeding and I am not against it. I do however realize that it can be very difficult for many different reasons and I want to share my experience so that it may help other mommies!
When I found out I was pregnant, I was determined to Breastfeed. Oh, it was the best way to feed your child and I refused to formula Feed. However, things don’t always go the way you plan.
My baby girl arrived 5 days early and I was oh so happy when she came out hungry. We were doing our skin to skin and she immediately tried to latch on to her daddy. He gave her back and I let her try her hand at breastfeeding… she did great! But that’s where it all ended. As the days in the hospital went on, she had trouble with her weight because she just wouldn’t latch. No matter what the nurses or myself did, she simply wasn’t having it. Although she was losing weight, all the doctors and nurses encouraged me to continue trying so that’s what I did. And let me tell you, it made our first two weeks at home miserable.
I had ordered a breastpump and because she couldn’t latch, I had to pump every two hours and it was worse than pulling teeth. I would double pump for 20 minutes every two hours and only get about 1.5-2 ounces TOTAL. She was eating 2-2.5 ounces every two hours. I was exhausted because she would sleep but after I fed her and changed her and got her laid down, it was time to pump again. So I never slept and it stressed me out. I was so heartbroken that I wasn’t able to keep up with her. I struggled with it and I cried every single time I went to Pump because it simply reminded me.
Then one day I woke up and I had a come to Jesus meeting with myself. I was tires of seeing my baby struggle to eat and grow and I was tired of being miserable and missing the greatness of enjoying my new baby. I walked out of my bedroom and told my husband that I was done breastfeeding and pumping. We had sample cans of formula and we were going to use those until we could get more from the grocery store.
The next time we went to the doctor she had gained 6.5 ounces in just 4 days! My baby was finally eating and growing like she’s supposed to! I was finally enjoying my time with my new baby!
She is almost a month old now and we are as happy as could be. We have found a formula that works for us and we enjoy our time now! There are so many pros and cons to each method of feeding and I believe that everyone should choose which way is best for them. I just know the pressure women have to Breastfeed and I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to. You simply have to care for your baby and yourself. Find what’s best for you and go with it. We aren’t all made the same so it’s obvious that what works for one person won’t work for everyone.
Simply care for your baby and do what makes y’all happy! If you want to Breastfeed, Breastfeed. If you want to formula Feed, formula Feed. And don’t judge any other mama for the choice she makes because in the end, we are all in this together.